I appreciate this recent articleposted on this website for taking a stand against homosexuality.
I agree wholeheartedly that homosexuality is a sin. The Bible is very clear in its position in this
regard. From the Old Testament Levitical law (Leviticus 20:3) to New Testament Pauline
epistles (I Corinthians 6:9), there is no argument against that homosexuality is a sin
against nature and against God.
Our world today has experienced a
paradigm shift of even more evil. The recent decision to "fix"
the Religious Freedom Restoration Act in Indiana was telling. The law
itself had no reference to
homosexuality. The bill only was made
to reiterate support an already existing law. And yet it lost.
President Obama has called an end to
any attempt or therapy to reverse a sexual orientation. In
other words, he has made it illegal to
counsel someone that what they are doing is sin. It seems the
tide has turned against us.
Homosexuality seems to be accepted by the society-at-large.
One thing we Baptists seem to get
twisted about is how to treat a homosexual. Jesus told us to love
sinners and our enemies. How do we do that? We always repeat the
slogan "Hate the Sin, Love the
Sinner." but what does it actually
mean? I will be using the word "homosexual" to cover all
non-
heterosexual sexual sins, covering all
of the so-called LGBTQ.
1. Lead Them To The Lord And Disciple
Them
Homosexuality is simply one of many
sins Jesus can forgive. Our Lord and Saviour Jesus Christ has the
power to save homosexuals from homosexuality! It just might be that a homosexual's lusts for the same gender
will be one of the sins that would disappear when a homosexual
becomes a born-again believer. If so, rejoice!
Whether the sin disappears completely
or not, encourage them to attend a discipleship class, such as the
Reformer's Unanimous addictions program. Reformer's Unanimous is
attended by those who have any addictions, from gluttony to alcohol
to drugs to lust. It is a Biblically-based program to get closer to
Christ, rather than believing on oneself and a deceitful heart. If
your local church does not have one, no matter, the point is,
disciple them, somehow.
If you are a pastor or leader or one
who has been in the faith long enough, it is an option to
disciple them yourself. Get them to be
baptized by their own conviction. Get them to read the Bible
for themselves and pray. Make sure they
attend every discipleship session, and every time the church doors
are open. If they refuse to work on their homosexuality, focus on the
"smaller" sins: lying, stealing, coveting, pride, and so
on. While one sin may overshadow others externally, as sinners, we
have many sins. But even more, focus on getting closer to Christ
through His Word. Before you know it, his old lusts of the flesh will
be replaced with new convictions.
We cannot eradicate this sin
ourselves. We must rely on Him Who created our bodies, sexuality, and
marriage. It may take fasting and prayer on our part and the
homosexual's part.
2. Determine How To Handle Each Person Individually
As much as one wants to broadbrush
every homosexual into one large homogenized group, we cannot if we
want to claim them for Christ. He that winneth souls is wise (Proverbs 11:30), and we
would be wise to study the demographics of the homosexual population.
There are some that are outspoken
defenders of their sin. The gay lobby, the gay activist, the gay paraders, the media -
these are the voices that ring out against us. To use a
"heterosexual" analogy, they are the equivalent of the porn
industry or prostitution defenders. It is their identity. There are those that have
homosexual lusts and thoughts from time to time. They do not act on
it, but they may have fear and confusion.
To classify every homosexual as a
defender is inaccurate at best. Just as not all fornicators and
adulterers are outspoken and rabid,
homosexuals can also be quiet, stealthy, or ashamed. This is not to
lessen the sin, but to refine our method of reaching them.
We can crudely split homosexuals into
three groups:
A. Identifying as a homosexual: These
are those that have identified themselves as homosexual, and
are unashamed of it. They parade
themselves and flaunt their sin. It is their lifestyle, and they
see no evil in it. This is usually what we think of when we hear of the word "homosexuals".
B. Struggling with homosexuality: These
are those that have acted on or planning to act on their
homosexual desires. They may not
identify themselves as homosexual, however, they have an addiction
to the sin. They may have shame, or are
just quiet about it. Make no mistake, they are engaged in
immorality, as much as a heterosexual
adulterer is engaged in sin.
C. Attracted to homosexual desires:
These are those that have homosexual desires and attractions,
however, but have not acted on them.
They probably do not identify as a homosexual or are
confused by the desires. It is a much, much larger group than both of Group A and B combined.
The point is, not everyone who has
this sin is in Group A. Those in Group A, and to a lesser extent,
Group B, must experience church discipline as both Groups A and B are
actively committing the sin. Open immorality cannot continue in our
churches. Those in Group B and Group C usually are ashamed to speak
of their sin to get help, for fear of backlash. Those in Group B and
Group C are rightly ashamed of their homosexual proclivities. If they
want to change in Christ, you must have a willing and open ear.
Listen.
We must identify in which group a
homosexual resides in. Ask them questions. Do not load those
questions with accusations. Use the answers they give you to win
their soul effectively to Christ.
3. Do Not Have A Double Standard
Before one looks down on homosexuals,
remember that lusting after the opposite sex is the same sin as
lusting after someone with the same sex. Both that do commit adultery
in their hearts. We cannot have a double standard.
Is it possible to be a "gay
Christian"? Is that an oxymoron? I ask, is it possible for a
heterosexual adulterer, fornicator,
porn addict, or someone who lusts after the opposite sex to be a
Christian?
There are clearly Christians in Group
C, as there are arguably many Christians who have heterosexual lusts.
If you believe there are Christians that can sometimes or secretly
fornicate and commit adultery, then it follows that there are
Christians in Group B. If you believe there are completely hellion
and backslidden immoral heterosexual Christians who prostitute
themselves openly, then it follows that there are backslidden Christians in Group
A. It is unlikely, however.
Those that claim to be saved in Group
B and Group C sometimes do make fruit, despite the temptations. Some
of those who has struggled with desires have remained celibate, or
have married opposite sex spouses to stave off their desires. If we
pride ourselves with standards that prevent sin, then actions like
these should be commendable.
The Bible says in I Corinthians
6:9-11 that the unrighteous shall not inherit the kingdom of God,
those that are fornicators, adulterers, effeminate, and abusers of
themselves with mankind. It also lists thievery, coveting, drunkards,
revilers, and so on.
Such were some of you. Such were some
of you! We have a tendency to pass over heterosexual sexual sins more
than we do homosexual sins! This must not be so, brethren.
Church discipline brings up another
issue. If we treat homosexuals engaged in sin one way, and yet treat
better a heterosexual couple engaged in sexual immorality, it will
sow seeds of our downfall. If we deliver the homosexual outside our
church, we must deliver up the sinning heterosexual couple in
adultery or fornication, as well.
If the homosexual repents, we must
treat him as we would treat an heterosexual adulterer or fornicator
that repents. Likewise, if we hold up those who have heterosexual
lusts but have committed to celibacy or marriage by conviction, we
should hold up the same standard on those who have homosexual lusts
that committed themselves to celibacy and heterosexual, traditional
marriage. Consistency is key.
If you have heterosexual sins and
lusts yourself, repent. If you have committed adultery against your
spouse, repent. If you have fornicated outside of marriage bounds,
repent. If you have touched the opposite sex to inflame them, repent.
If you have looked on a woman to lust and committed adultery in your
heart, repent. Are you not the same as a homosexual for lusting and
committing these sins?
In this issue, we cannot be
hypocrites. We must be blameless ourselves. Our double standard will
be our downfall.
4. Some Practical Actions to Show Love
If a homosexual was hungry, feed them.
If a homosexual was thirsty, offer them
a drink.
If a homosexual was drowning, save
them.
If a homosexual was lost, offer to help
them find their way.
If a homosexual asks for prayer, pray
for them.
If a homosexual needs help, help them.
The principle on how to love sinners practically should be evident and intuitive by those examples.
The principle on how to love sinners practically should be evident and intuitive by those examples.
5. Withhold Actions That May Seem To
Promote Or Participate In Their Sin
One would say, if we can do the above
things, it follows that we should attend and celebrate gay
weddings because we love them, right? Right?
Wrong!
Attending a wedding means you approve
of the wedding between two people. We do not approve sin, nor its
celebration. In addition, it might be tricky when it is asked who
would object to the marriage. It would be the same if a Christian was
invited to attend a murder. We will love the person, but we will not
participate in the sin.
This is why businesses that refuse to bake cakes for gay weddings should be allowed not to bake cakes. It is against their consciences to bake a cake, as if they were participating in the sin.
This is why businesses that refuse to bake cakes for gay weddings should be allowed not to bake cakes. It is against their consciences to bake a cake, as if they were participating in the sin.
There are times when we need to judge
with holiness, and there are times when we need to have grace. The
Bible gives us a rule of thumb to use which. They who sin willingly
despite knowing the truth must be judged harshly. Those are ignorant
must first be taught. Rely on the Bible and the Holy Spirit.
Like a parent of a wayward child, to
homosexuals, we can say, "You're wrong" and "I love
you", simultaneously without contradiction. We must be firm in
both statements.